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Cikk - egy volt német prostitutált a kötelező regisztrációról
2014.10.17 02:07:26
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Az az igazság, hogy nem igazán értettem a levelet. Az alapkiindulás az volt, hogy Németországban szeretnék bevezetni a szexmunkások kötelező regisztrációját az önkormányzatoknál. A szexmunkások tiltakoznak, mivel ez növelné a stigmatizációt, egy volt lengyel…..
mikeb
2014.10.25 09:20:14
It should be noted, that the article was published in the "Emma" journal. A newspaper who is fighting against prostitution since many years. I don't think the letter is faked, but of course they would never publish an article that would say anything positive about sexwork.
Van egy olyan érzésem, hogy a mostani bejegyzést a nem túl figyelmes olvasó félre fogja érteni, de ettől függetlenül megírom. Szóval megvolt életem első bdsm-melója. Oké, ha belegondolok, tulajdonképpen ilyen a párommal volt először, amikor megismerkedtünk, viszont az a…..
mikeb
2014.01.12 10:10:14
@Ivonn88: OK, good. That makes it certainly less risky. The reasons why I thougt this is risky:
- you attract a certain kind of men. There is always some element of violence and "rape phantasies" in a male domination. If it is counterbalanced with empathy and responsibility for the sub, it is ok. But you cannot assume it for a stranger.
- even though a strong man might be able to subdue you, it is more likely and easier, if ropes or handcuffs are involved - so it is good that you don't do that.
- I don't remember having seen women offering BDSM services as a sub. I see a lot of offerings for domina services, but never the opposite. The only place where I saw it, was the club in Switzerland where you have been working, but that was in a controlled environment and they demanded that a "master dom" is always present - I assume an employee of the club. The fact that I have not seen them does not mean that such offerings don't exist, at least they are quite rare.
- you attract a certain kind of men. There is always some element of violence and "rape phantasies" in a male domination. If it is counterbalanced with empathy and responsibility for the sub, it is ok. But you cannot assume it for a stranger.
- even though a strong man might be able to subdue you, it is more likely and easier, if ropes or handcuffs are involved - so it is good that you don't do that.
- I don't remember having seen women offering BDSM services as a sub. I see a lot of offerings for domina services, but never the opposite. The only place where I saw it, was the club in Switzerland where you have been working, but that was in a controlled environment and they demanded that a "master dom" is always present - I assume an employee of the club. The fact that I have not seen them does not mean that such offerings don't exist, at least they are quite rare.
mikeb
2014.01.12 18:32:41
@Ivonn88: „ Anyway, what do you think about it? Did he do something extremely wrong or am I just not a good choice as a submissive for everyone?”
Interesting that you are asking me this. You know that I am not an expert on the topic. But as paintedtie says, he should have spent more time to understand what you like, what you tolerate and what is off limits. Certainly a slap in the face (or any slap) at the beginning of a meeting is a pretty bad idea in my opinion. What I like is to have some sort of feedback from the sub, like a number between 1 and 5 on the intensity of spanking for example, so I know whether she is bored or already at the limit of what she tolerates. This can be integrated into the game, if it was agreed before. I guess you are special, as you not just offer it as a service but also expect to enjoy it yourself to some degree. This certainly needs more preparation in advance, than with a sub that simply provides the service for money and will specify what she is willing to accept and what not.
Interesting that you are asking me this. You know that I am not an expert on the topic. But as paintedtie says, he should have spent more time to understand what you like, what you tolerate and what is off limits. Certainly a slap in the face (or any slap) at the beginning of a meeting is a pretty bad idea in my opinion. What I like is to have some sort of feedback from the sub, like a number between 1 and 5 on the intensity of spanking for example, so I know whether she is bored or already at the limit of what she tolerates. This can be integrated into the game, if it was agreed before. I guess you are special, as you not just offer it as a service but also expect to enjoy it yourself to some degree. This certainly needs more preparation in advance, than with a sub that simply provides the service for money and will specify what she is willing to accept and what not.
Ma dolgoztam volna, de le kellett mondanom a dolgot - az okot nem jelölném meg, de tényleg előre nem nagyon látható helyzet volt (na, mondjuk egy 30-40%-os esélyt adtam volna neki, beismerem). Az illetővel fél 6-kor találkoztam volna, és 3 körül írtam neki, hogy le kell mondanom. Ehhez…..
mikeb
2013.12.31 18:48:47
@Hátrányos helyzetű kaviár: I hope NNB does not follow your suggestion - I would hate it. For me her web-site is just perfect - If I would look at 50 web-sites and would have to choose a girl, I would pick her, because I think she gives completely honest and open information. I hate web-sites that don't publish prices - I think the girl will cheat me. Which you confirm, because I will get exactly the same service, but if I asked for "GFE" before, she will charge extra.
I don't like these "extras" generally (with very few exceptions maybe). I think Ivonn and NNB are just doing what they are best at. I could compare it to a restaurant service: If you go to McDonalds, you can chose what kind of sauce you want on your hamburgers, extra cheese, extra onion, whatever. They will pour it over and they won't care. And every restaurant on the planet has the same menue, regardless of the talent or the quality of the cook. If on the other hand you go to a gourmet-restaurant, the cook will be professional enough to prepare only meals he knows how to make and he won't ask you, whether you want ketchup or mayonnaise or onions on your Chateaubriand, because he knows what he is doing - which means he is a professional.
I don't like these "extras" generally (with very few exceptions maybe). I think Ivonn and NNB are just doing what they are best at. I could compare it to a restaurant service: If you go to McDonalds, you can chose what kind of sauce you want on your hamburgers, extra cheese, extra onion, whatever. They will pour it over and they won't care. And every restaurant on the planet has the same menue, regardless of the talent or the quality of the cook. If on the other hand you go to a gourmet-restaurant, the cook will be professional enough to prepare only meals he knows how to make and he won't ask you, whether you want ketchup or mayonnaise or onions on your Chateaubriand, because he knows what he is doing - which means he is a professional.
mikeb
2014.01.01 10:51:09
mikeb
2013.12.31 18:32:41
@noname.blogger: I agree with what you say. I would not book a girl that writes prices "from xxx Euro", because it would tell me two things:
1. She is trying to cheat me, just like the strip-tease bars with free entrance and then I pay 50 Euros for the beer
2. The price is negotiable. I hate to negotiate in such a situation, because I know, the more successful I am with negotiation the more the price will go down and the less interested the girl will be to provide good service.
On the GFE for extra - I could only imagine it, if somebody contacts kaviar to recommend a girl and she picks one with "GFE-feature", but the way I understood it is, that this girl will always provide GFE, just like you or Ivonn, but since it is an extra value, this girl will be more expensive than another girl without GFE.
1. She is trying to cheat me, just like the strip-tease bars with free entrance and then I pay 50 Euros for the beer
2. The price is negotiable. I hate to negotiate in such a situation, because I know, the more successful I am with negotiation the more the price will go down and the less interested the girl will be to provide good service.
On the GFE for extra - I could only imagine it, if somebody contacts kaviar to recommend a girl and she picks one with "GFE-feature", but the way I understood it is, that this girl will always provide GFE, just like you or Ivonn, but since it is an extra value, this girl will be more expensive than another girl without GFE.
Az előző bejegyzéssel kapcsolatban akartam ezt írni kommentben, de kicsit hosszúra nyúlt, így inkább bejegyzést csinálok belőle.
Szóval. Többen írták, hogy nem értik, minek akarok/várok el kedvességet vagy személyes hangvételt. Hiszen ez csak meló, másokkal sem bánnak így…..
mikeb
2013.12.22 12:39:14
@Ivonn88: Sorry, this has to be in english :)
The 4 reports I found on you were quite unusually positive. There were things like: "...tall, slim, small beautiful breasts, sweet smile, a little bit timid - WOW" or "...Hungarian student, intelligent, beautiful, lovely, engaged, natural", "...never had a girl that was so passionate and natural", "... her kisses, her skin, her breasts, INCREDIBLE", "... girl to fall in love with", etc.
In these clubs about 10% of the girls who work there become "Top Acts", means they have some positive reports that are published and guests start to actively search for them. It is very unusual to reach that status after only 2 days! Having visited these clubs until about 4 years ago, I can also understand why. I had about 60+ girls and none of them was similar to you - or NNB :) - but I also doubt that it is possible to keep that passion and "girlfriend behaviour" when you work there 10 hours a day and 5 or more days a week...
The 4 reports I found on you were quite unusually positive. There were things like: "...tall, slim, small beautiful breasts, sweet smile, a little bit timid - WOW" or "...Hungarian student, intelligent, beautiful, lovely, engaged, natural", "...never had a girl that was so passionate and natural", "... her kisses, her skin, her breasts, INCREDIBLE", "... girl to fall in love with", etc.
In these clubs about 10% of the girls who work there become "Top Acts", means they have some positive reports that are published and guests start to actively search for them. It is very unusual to reach that status after only 2 days! Having visited these clubs until about 4 years ago, I can also understand why. I had about 60+ girls and none of them was similar to you - or NNB :) - but I also doubt that it is possible to keep that passion and "girlfriend behaviour" when you work there 10 hours a day and 5 or more days a week...
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